Were You Burdened With Too Much Too Soon?

This is Day 10 of the 2020 Empowerment Guide For Sensitive People! Today’s article is by Imi Lo, an award-winning psychotherapist, a published author, teacher and podcast host, who discusses the common problem of parentification for sensitive people. Her book, Emotional Sensitivity and Intensity (Hodder and Stoughton, 2018), is available worldwide and in multiple languages. Imi is a qualified Clinical Psychotherapist, Art Therapist, Social Worker, Certified Schema Therapist (ISST), Mentalisation-based Therapy Practitioner, EMDR Therapist, and Mindfulness Teacher.
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She works holistically, synthesising East and Western philosophies and spiritual traditions such as Buddhism, Taoism, Japanese Psychology, the Enneagram and Existential philosophy. She is a Clinical Supervisor and Trainer and delivers workshops and lectures to psychotherapists and trainees.
 
Young sensitive individuals can be susceptible to having been placed in a role where others lean on them inappropriately. This often happens because of the wonderful empathetic and emotional awareness that sensitive children naturally have.
 
Imi has provided us with wonderful insights into the important role parentification, especially emotional parentification, plays in our development and how it may have affected your choices and survival strategies as a child. She describes the costs and coping mechanisms many parentified children use and also offers a pathway for healing the harm caused by being placed in such a role. Imi’s article is compassionate and important for all sensitive people who have had too much and inappropriate responsibility at a young age.
 
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How Doing Your Inner Work Saves You

This is Day 9 of the 2020 Empowerment Guide For Sensitive People! Today’s article is by Maria Hill, founder of Sensitive Evolution, who shares how she used her sensitivity to assist with her inner work in dealing with the consequences of a toxic family environment.

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She is the author of The Emerging Sensitive: A Guide For Finding Your Place In The World and the immersive Emerging Sensitive Program which uses cultural and personal development frameworks to help sensitive people master their sensitivity and turn it into the asset it can be. She also hosts the Emerging Sensitive Movie Club focused on movies and discussions about living in the world as a sensitive person and navigating the challenging cultural shifts of our times. Maria is a longtime meditator, reiki master, student of alternative health and Ayurveda. Maria is also an abstract painter whose portfolio can be found at Infinite Shape and also very interested in animal and human rights and the environment.

Many of us did not know about our sensitivity when we were young. Maria knew at a very young age that she was different. She also was born into a highly toxic environment which we know can bring adverse consequences for sensitive people. In this article she describes the process she used of letting her sensitivity inform her and help her develop some important skills. In essence her sensitivity helped her to save herself and she was able to turn her sensitivity into a valuable resource.

 

How Doing Your Inner Work Saves You

 

How To Accept Your Sensitivity As A Gift

This is Day 8 of the 2020 Empowerment Guide For Sensitive People! Today’s article is by Jason Freeman, who is a professional speaker, author, and bravery coach traveling the country sharing his inspirational and transformative journey and he does it with a pronounced speech impediment.

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Jason Freeman is a professional speaker, author, and bravery coach who travels the country sharing his inspirational and transformative journey with captivated audiences . . . and he does it with a pronounced speech impediment.

From the dream affirming standing ovation following his TEDx talk in Sugarland, TX to his earliest moments in front of an attentive crowd, Jason has learned to trust his seemingly contradictory calling to speak in front of live audiences. He has shared the stage with well-known speakers in the transformational, entertainment, entrepreneurship, and business worlds and has charmed audiences at The California Teacher’s Summit, Kyle Cease’s Evolving Out Loud, The Habitude Warrior Conference, The People First Conference in San Diego, and San Diego State University, amongst others.

Jason has a unique and wonderful role as a bravery coach. I personally had never heard of a bravery coach but think it beautifully describes Jason. He is a master at taking challenges and turning them into a gift. His openness to challenge has become a skill and source of enrichment for himself and others. He has had numerous challenges and in this article he shares how he learned to work with his sensitivity. Jason is an inspiring person who is a model of how to transform life’s hurdles into assets. In this article he talks about how he was able to accept his sensitivity as a gift.

 

How To Accept Your Sensitivity As A Gift

The Hypocrisy Of Sensitive People

This is Day 7 of the 2020 Empowerment Guide For Sensitive People! Today’s article is by Jeannette Folan who is an Integrative Health Coach for Sensitives and creator of the first-ever accredited HSP Certification Training Program for mental health professionals through Nickerson Institute.

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She is the author of the novel “Diary of a Teenage Empath – The Awakening”, as well as other digital tools and activity books for children and teens. In 2019, she co-launched the first-ever accredited HSP Certification Training Program for mental health professionals with her mentor, Dr. Wendy Nickerson.

As an Integrative Health Coach, Jeannette has a lot of experience helping sensitive people to thrive. We all know that sensitive people can be challenged by the negative energy of others and it can result in a sensitive person taking the position of victim. It may be fair to say that we all do that to some extent until we begin to work on our role in any depleting dynamics.

In this article, Jeannette describes an important dynamic that can keep us depleted and stuck and how she herself worked on changing this negative dynamic in some of her relationships. This is an honest article that offers a pathway out of draining energetic relationships and is a message as well as a reminder we all need to hear some of the time.

Please click link to view article: https://sensitiveevolution.com/the-hypocrisy-of-sensitive-people/

Focus On Your Feet To Center

Day 6 of the 2020 Empowerment Guide For Sensitive People! Christina Fletcher is a Spiritually Aware Parent Coach and Energy Healer. She is a homeschooling mom of 3 children (ages 17, 16 and 10) and has lived in Canada, Spain and the UK.

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Through her work in mindset, mindfulness, energy healing, and conscious parenting Christina shares her passion of seeing each person (adults and children alike) as their truest, deepest versions of themselves, helping them to feel present, authentic and whole through the busyness of the world we live in.

She offers her support through 1:1 coaching, self-led courses and an online membership program called the Breathing Space for parents.

Many of us are just getting to know our trait and have had the experience of rejection or invalidation as children. We may have taken that in as a truth about ourselves before we learned about our sensitivity. Some sensitive individuals have taken their childhood experience and worked with it to become the parents and guides for sensitive children that we need in the world and would have loved to have had, With that work comes important skills that can benefit all of us and Christina shares her wisdom on centering in this lovely article.

 

https://sensitiveevolution.com/focus-on-your-feet-to-center/

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2020- Year of the Highly Sensitive Man!

“Heroes didn’t leap tall buildings or stop bullets with an outstretched hand; they didn’t wear boots and capes. They bled, and they bruised, and their superpowers were as simple as listening, or loving. Heroes were ordinary people who knew that even if their own lives were impossibly knotted, they could untangle someone else’s. And maybe that one act could lead someone to rescue you right back.” ~Jodi Picoult, Second Glance

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In my work with highly sensitive people, I often interact exclusively through secondhand means, such as the telephone, Skype, or Zoom and never have a chance to be in the real presence of the other person. I am able to glean quite a bit from just the voice but there is nothing that can replace feeling the energy field of another person standing in front of you or, better yet, of a group of people in front of you!

I mention this because at the recent November HSP Self-Care Immersion workshop at 1440 Multiversity, we held a breakout session just for highly sensitive men with Dr. Elaine Aron and myself as the leaders. We had about seven HS men at our session and focused on ensuring each man was seen and heard, that his story enjoyed a chance to breathe in like minded company. There was an immediate sense of community that developed as each man was given a chance to say something about his experience of life as a highly sensitive man. Some related the difficulties they have encountered as their sensitivity was accepted or rejected, how their careers have been shaped and formed by sensory processing sensitivity, and how being in the company of other HS men felt supportive, accepting, and welcoming. Others related how much they gained from focusing on how to practice real self care, which too many of us neglect as the world demands so much of us.

Being a highly sensitive man implies many things but, in essence, we are the “ordinary people” of Picoult who have bled, been battered and bruised by life, and still reach out to help others untangle their lives. We are certainly not perfect souls, nor do we have any special powers but, as suggested by Picoult, we may be terrific listeners and have soft, open hearts that invite others in to our experience.

I invite you to join us at the upcoming HS Men’s Weekend at 1440 Multiversity March 13-15 and join our warm, open community of like minded HS men who are gathering together for the first time. This event will not be one where you feel isolated and lost in the crowd; indeed, you will be seen and heard and valued for your experiences and insights.

If I can leave you with any enticing thoughts or feelings from my experience leading a group of HS men it’s that the collection of talent, experience, creativity, and kindness is so palpable as to have left deep impressions on me, even many weeks later. Many of the men already signed up are incredibly impressive individuals and the company and conversation will be poignant, real, and empowering!

Join us….

https://www.1440.org/…/a-weekend-for-highly-sensitive-men-2…

It has been suggested that we declare 2020 to be the Year of the Highly Sensitive Man, let’s make this happen!

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Grief: The Undervalued HSP Superpower

In day 5, Jody Day, the British founder of Gateway Women, the global friendship and patryk-sobczak-9VPtNW84vGI-unsplash-800x533support network for childless women and the author of ‘Living the Life Unexpected: 12 Weeks to Your Plan B for a Meaningful and Fulfilling Future Without Children’, joins us for our 2020 Empowerment Guide For Sensitive People! In this wonderful article, she shares how she has come to see grief as a superpower for sensitive people.

An HSP herself, she’s a thought-leader on female involuntary childlessness, an integrative psychotherapist, a TEDx speaker and a former Fellow in Social Innovation at Cambridge Judge Business School. A World Childless Week champion, she lives in rural Ireland and is working on a new book.

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Grief: The Undervalued HSP Superpower

In day 4 of the 2020 Empowerment Guide For Sensitive People, I share insights aroundspscooper the acceptance of our trait, based on my own experience and long reflections. I discuss in detail the importance of creating space in ourselves for our sensitivity and allowing the trait in our lives. This perspective can make a huge difference in our ability to turn sensitivity into the gift it was meant to be. The theme of allowing has become something of a mantra for me as I have worked with highly sensitive people and noticed that it generally takes years to really get to know the trait. Rather than feeling we have to accept it upfront, complexities and all, we can simply find a more gracious and patient place within ourselves to allow it to grow over time.

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High Sensitivity: Gifts And Challenges

This is Day 3 of the 2020 Empowerment Guide For Sensitive People! The 3rd article in the shutterstock_481502263-800x5342020 Empowerment Guide For Sensitive People is written by Julie Bjelland, a licensed psychotherapist, author, and founder of the online resource, Sensitive Empowerment.

As a leader in the field of high sensitivity, Julie has helped thousands of highly sensitive people (HSPs) around the world reduce their challenges, access their gifts, and discover a sense of calm, feeling grounded, inner strength, and resiliency they have never thought possible.

Giving people a sense of true connection, Julie is featured on national media regularly and on a mission to empower sensitive people to live their best lives.

Julie has written a great article providing an overview of the challenges of sensitivity as well as the many gifts it offers so that we can have some clarity about our trait. In addition she offer important tips for handling and avoiding overwhelm.

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Link to Julie’s article here